The path success and happiness, and a healthy, meaningful life may not always align with what we expect. While some findings from research on well-being seem straightforward—like practicing gratitude to feel happier or using mindfulness to reduce stress—other discoveries can surprise us, challenging our assumptions about how the world works.
At the recent International Positive Psychology Association’s 5th World Congress, a four-day event attended by over 1,300 participants, some fascinating and counterintuitive insights emerged. These revelations have the potential to reshape how we approach success and happiness, offering fresh perspectives on living a fulfilling life. Here are three surprising insights that stood out.
1. Happiness Isn’t Just About Feeling Good
When we think about happiness, we often associate it with moments of joy, excitement, or comfort. However, research presented at the conference suggests that happiness encompasses more than just positive emotions. A truly fulfilling life often involves meaning and purpose, which can sometimes come with challenges or even discomfort.
For example, pursuing a meaningful goal—such as advancing in your career, raising a family, or making a difference in your community—might require sacrifices and hard work. These efforts may not always feel good in the moment, but they contribute to a deeper sense of fulfillment and long-term satisfaction.
The takeaway? Success and happiness are not about avoiding difficulties but about embracing challenges that align with your values and purpose.
2. Success Doesn’t Guarantee Happiness
We often think that achieving success will automatically lead to happiness, but the connection between the two is more complex than it seems. Studies reveal that while accomplishments like promotions, financial milestones, or social recognition can provide temporary boosts in happiness, they don’t always lead to lasting fulfillment.
In fact, the constant pursuit of external success can sometimes have the opposite effect. When we tie our self-worth to achievements, we may find ourselves trapped in a cycle of chasing more without ever feeling truly satisfied. Instead, the research highlights the importance of intrinsic motivation—pursuing goals that resonate with our personal passions and values.
True success, it turns out, is not just about reaching the finish line. It’s about enjoying the journey and finding happiness in the process.
3. Happiness is Contagious—But So Is Negativity
One of the most surprising insights shared at the conference was the powerful role that social connections play in shaping our happiness. It’s not just that relationships are essential for well-being; the emotions we share with others have a ripple effect.
Research shows that happiness can spread through social networks. When we’re around positive, supportive people, their energy can uplift us, encouraging us to see the brighter side of life. However, the opposite is also true: negativity can spread just as quickly, pulling us down and increasing stress or dissatisfaction.
This insight highlights the importance of surrounding ourselves with individuals who inspire and uplift us. It also serves as a reminder to be mindful of how our own emotions and behaviors influence others. By cultivating kindness, gratitude, and optimism, we can create a positive feedback loop that benefits everyone in our community.
Embracing New Perspectives on Success and Happiness
These three surprising insights reveal that the pursuit of success and happiness is more nuanced than we might think. Rather than focusing solely on external achievements or fleeting pleasures, the key lies in aligning our actions with our values, finding meaning in our struggles, and fostering positive connections with others.
The research presented at the International Positive Psychology Association’s World Congress challenges us to rethink traditional notions of what it means to live a successful and happy life. By embracing these new perspectives, we can create a more fulfilling and balanced existence—not just for ourselves, but for the people around us as well.
For more inspiring takeaways from the conference and insights on cultivating success and happiness, click here to read this wonderful article from Kira M. Newman.
Additional Resources on Success and Happiness
How Self-Compassion Can Help You Heal Your Inner Critic – “Self-talk” isn’t even in our consciousness, but it impacts our feelings, thoughts, and actions.
Self-Compassion as Self-Care – 5 Simple Tools for Mental Health and Well-Being – It’s more than just a feel-good concept.
5 Simple Strategies to Navigate Stress with Self-Compassion – Enhance your emotional resilience, promote personal growth, and foster a greater sense of well-being.
Nicolle Osequeda, LMFT, is the founder of Lincoln Park Therapy Group, specializing in anxiety, depression, and relationship counseling in Chicago. As a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, she incorporates Dr. Brené Brown’s research into her therapy. Nicolle holds a Master’s in Counseling Psychology from the University of San Francisco and is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Illinois and California. She is a Clinical Fellow of AAMFT, a member of IAMFT, and the Financial Therapy Association. Nicolle has Gottman Method training and has taught at DePaul University, dedicated to helping individuals and couples achieve meaningful change. 
